"Just Adopt"

So, I thought I would just start my own blog about our adoption journey from here on out and any thoughts or frustrations that I have along the way. This isn't necessarily going to be fun for you :), but I think it will help me relieve some of my frustrations and also maybe help keep someone else company along their journey.
My first thought today is, whoever coined the term "why don't you just adopt" I am QUITE sure has NEVER gone through the process of adoption. After going through 7 years of trying to conceive and failing in all possible realms, we decided last February that we were going to leave all of that behind and pursue a path of adoption to bring our baby home. Well, at that point I felt a HUGE weight lifted....I didn't have to feel like a failure any longer. We were going to have a baby! We were also told "oh, you will get chosen very quickly!" "You are just what many expectant moms are looking for." We thought "GREAT!!" and we got started working on getting the nursery ready, preparing our parenting skills, researching pediatricians, picking out names, researching strollers and carseats. etc. All of the things that we hadn't dared do while trying to conceive. It was so exciting!
Well, after almost 6 months, LOTS of agency frustrations, tons of hard work to complete a multitude of Hague Convention requirements and being passed over 3 times now....this is no freakin' carnival ride! There are just as many ups and down in the adoption process as there are in the infertility world ~ they are just different ups and downs. I finally found out yesterday that a WEEK ago the two expectant moms our portfolios were being shown to, made their decision. A WEEK ago they decided and I just found out yesterday! Do you have any idea how excruciating each day of waiting is to an adoptive family?? At the end of last week, I was literally in tears because this is just so emotionally difficult! And now I find out that those feelings could have been spared a week ago.... My level of frustration at this point is actually indescribable.
So, please whoever you are....NEVER say to someone who is experiencing the pain of infertility "why don't you just adopt". There is nothing "just" about this....the pain and the disappointment at times goes very deep.
Yes, when we bring our baby home...finally....I know this frustration and pain will begin to melt away and when I look in his/her eyes I will know why we waited. But today...I don't understand at all...